From Chapter 14 of Lundy Bancroft's book Why Does He Do That?, some important steps to go through for changing bad behavior, atoning for it, and becoming a better person:

• Admit fully what was done
• Admit that it was done on purpose, as a choice, without making excuses, being honest about motives
• Acknowledge that it was wrong and stop blaming others
• Accept others' right to be angry about it, and truly acknowledge the effects of what was done
• Accept the consequences of it
• Devote long-term and serious effort to making compensation for the damages that were done
• Lay aside demands for forgiveness
• Treat others consistently well in the future=
• Relinquish negative views of others

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